Dharma Yudh

A couple of days back one of my old team members quit the company. The person was one of the oldest members of the team as well as one of those with whom I enjoyed working a lot. Infact over the past few weeks lots of people from my old team have left.
Since I keep on mentioning "old" its pretty obvious that I am not part of that team anymore. The point as to why I call it a "dharma yudh" is because most of the people have sought my advice and guidance before quitting and somewhere the thought comes up whether I can influence them to stay back. The latest colleague also was facing a dilemma and was unsure about the final decision. I thus had detailed discussion and helped in the decision making process.
My take on this is clear though. I believe if a person has decided to move on he or she will move on either today or a little later. One should not try to hold the individual back but should try to give the fellow team member a perspective which helps in the decision making. I do not think that one is loyal to the organization if one tries to hold a moving colleague. I also believe if I am contributing unbiased opinions and offering a sounding board to the people who have worked with me and trust me I am doing the right thing. The decision is theirs but probably the sounding board helps them to decide. If the decision is to leave am I being less loyal to my company? I strongly dont believe so...